Online Friendship: Enemy or Ally?

Let’s face it, social media has become an integral part of our lives. But what if we told you it’s not just a distraction but can actually help? New research reveals that online friendships can boost self-esteem and reduce loneliness — but only when used mindfully.

Let’s face it, social media has become an integral part of our lives. But what if we told you it’s not just a distraction but can actually help? New research reveals that online friendships can boost self-esteem and reduce loneliness — but only when used mindfully.

Why does it work?

Researchers surveyed 1,500 people of various ages and discovered that feelings of closeness and support in the virtual world can compensate for a lack of these emotions in real life. Young people aged 18–39, often struggling with low self-esteem, find a sense of belonging and teamwork in online friends. Shared jokes, common interests, and simply having someone “on the other end” provide a therapeutic effect.

However, for older generations, it’s more complicated. Those over 70 noted that frequent social media interaction decreases their self-esteem. Perhaps this is because they see virtual connections as a replacement for real-life relationships rather than a complement to them.

The key: quality over quantity

The closer your bond with an online friend, the higher the chance for a positive impact. Shallow interactions only deepen loneliness. But if the friendship is built on common interests and genuine engagement, it becomes a true lifeline.

What does this mean for us?

As men, we often pride ourselves on being strong and independent, but sometimes a simple chat with a friend — even a virtual one — can pull us out of loneliness or apathy. Don’t underestimate the power of online connections if they bring you support and positivity.

Interestingly, scientists suggest teaching the basics of healthy online communication in schools and colleges. Think about it: what if your next brother-in-arms is just a click away?

So instead of blaming social media, ask yourself: How am I using it for my growth?