Soulmate: Illusion or Reality?

It seems like the whole world is captivated by the idea of a "soulmate." Since childhood, we are told that somewhere out there, among billions of people, there is someone perfectly suited for us. It sounds romantic, almost like a fairy tale. But is it true? Or is this idea just a harmful myth that destroys relationships?

It seems like the whole world is captivated by the idea of a "soulmate." Since childhood, we are told that somewhere out there, among billions of people, there is someone perfectly suited for us. It sounds romantic, almost like a fairy tale. But is it true? Or is this idea just a harmful myth that destroys relationships?

Belief in the existence of a single "perfect" person for each of us may seem like a safe haven, but in reality, it often becomes a trap. We start seeking perfection in another person, forgetting that we ourselves are far from perfect. People who strongly believe in this concept tend to doubt their choice: Is this really the one? Did I miss someone "better"? Constant questions and doubts prevent the relationship from growing; they hold us back. We waste precious time searching for signs of perfection instead of working on what we already have.

Research shows that couples who believe in the soulmate myth argue more often than those who see relationships as shared growth. They give up more easily when difficulties arise, thinking their "perfect" partner cannot make mistakes. But perfection doesn't exist, and belief in it breeds disappointment.

The problem is also that we stop forgiving. In arguments, "soulmate believers" are less likely to give a second chance because they think that if problems arise, this must not be "the one." And they leave, once again searching for that mythical soul.

It's time to admit: belief in a soulmate is a kind of mental junk food. We consume this idea, like another harmful myth about the supernatural, but it only fills us with illusions, preventing us from building something real. Real relationships require work and effort, just like a garden needs care. And the good news is that there are far more "gardeners" out there with whom you can build satisfying relationships than just one person in a lifetime.

So maybe it’s time to stop chasing Mr. or Mrs. Perfect and start building healthy, fulfilling relationships with the people who are already around you.