If you’ve noticed a habit of “rescuing” women who have personal struggles, addictions, or emotional wounds—you’re not alone. This relationship pattern is called “rescuer syndrome” — when your love turns into a mission to heal another person.
If you’ve noticed a habit of “rescuing” women who have personal struggles, addictions, or emotional wounds—you’re not alone. This relationship pattern is called “rescuer syndrome” — when your love turns into a mission to heal another person. You might wonder: Why do I do this? Why not just find a relationship that’s easy and pleasant? The answer lies deep in your psyche and life experience.
It’s when you feel your role is to be the “rescuer” who fixes, supports, and literally “heals” your partner. At first, it seems noble — you show care, help her deal with problems, and feel close to her. But over time, your role becomes an endless burden. You constantly fear that without you, she will “fall apart” or stop coping. And she, in turn, starts seeing you not as an equal, but as a guardian her life depends on.
In the end, the relationship becomes a tiring alliance between a guardian and a dependent — far from happiness.
Often, it’s rooted in low self-esteem and codependency. You feel important only by helping someone “get better.” It’s a way to distract yourself from your own problems and find purpose.
Another reason is childhood and upbringing. If you had to take responsibility for others in your family, you may have gotten used to playing the “rescuer” role. It became your psychological defense and habit.
Finally, social myths: movies, books, and culture teach that a “real man” must be a hero who brings light into darkness. But that idea is a trap.
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