Are You a Good Lover? Scientists Know How to Tell (And It's Not About the Gym!)

If you thought that being desirable and great in bed was all about being strong, muscular, and a confident macho man, it’s time to bust that myth. A new study by Polish anthropologists shows that it’s not about bulging biceps or looks — but something much more interesting and important.

If you thought that being desirable and great in bed was all about being strong, muscular, and a confident macho man, it’s time to bust that myth. A new study by Polish anthropologists shows that it’s not about bulging biceps or looks — but something much more interesting and important.

540 Men and One Truth

The study involved 540 heterosexual men in stable relationships lasting at least three months. Participants rated their own attractiveness and that of their partners, and honestly reported how many times they had performed cunnilingus in their last ten sexual encounters.

Here’s what they found: men who saw themselves as less attractive than their partners were much more motivated to please their women — especially through oral sex. This act became the key way to compensate for their insecurity and prove that a man can be an excellent lover.

Why Do Women Love Cunnilingus So Much?

Previous research showed that men practice oral sex more often with steady partners than with casual ones. It’s not just a sexual act, but a way to support the relationship, show care and attention, and make the woman happy.

In this case, Polish scientists add that the motivation to satisfy their partner drives men who doubt their attractiveness to become true masters of cunnilingus. They also experience nearly as much pleasure from the act as the women do.

What Does This Mean for You?

This doesn’t mean you should suddenly develop a complex about yourself. On the contrary — the real secret to being a great lover isn’t about muscles or looks, but about listening to and understanding your partner, knowing what she likes, and genuinely wanting to please her.

So if you want to be the man she remembers and wants to come back to, don’t just focus on flashy moves. Pay attention to giving her pleasure through oral sex. Be a gentleman, be attentive — and she will appreciate it.