This Isn't Love - It's a Script: 6 Signs She's Using You

ATM, driver, therapist, mover, babysitter — the roles some men play in so-called “relationships” are many. But love? Nowhere to be found. Millions of men around the world experience the same thing: she’s physically present, but emotionally vacant.

ATM, driver, therapist, mover, babysitter — the roles some men play in so-called “relationships” are many. But love? Nowhere to be found. Millions of men around the world experience the same thing: she’s physically present, but emotionally vacant. Why? Because you’re not a partner — you’re a resource. How do you spot the signs before it’s too late? Here are 6 red flags that you’re in a performance, not a partnership.

You’re always the one who calls, texts, and plans

You initiate the conversations. You set up the dates. You keep the connection alive. Her responses? “Busy,” “Later,” or nothing at all — unless she needs something. Then, suddenly, she’s all smiles and sweet words. If communication is one-sided, you’re not in a relationship. You’re on call.

Money, gifts, and lifestyle are her favorite topics

If she cares more about how much you make, where you live, or what you drive than about your goals, dreams, or thoughts — you’re not a person to her, you’re an investment. It gets worse if she pouts over not getting presents or throws shade when you don’t drop cash on luxury items.

She’s not interested in your life (unless you bring something useful)

She’ll talk endlessly about her problems, her bad days, her frustrations. You’re there to listen. But when you try to share what’s on your mind? Silence or irritation. Because you’re not a man to her — you’re a tool: “listen, help, fix.”

No physical affection, but tons of expectations

Affection and intimacy? Almost none. But requests, demands, and expectations? All day long. If you’re not getting love or closeness but you’re still expected to give time, gifts, and favors — that’s not love. That’s sponsorship in disguise.

Her ex is perfect, and you’re “good enough for now”

She keeps bringing up her ex — how amazing, successful, and caring he was. You? You’re the guy she’s with because she doesn’t want to be alone. You’re not him — and she makes sure you know it. If she’s still messaging him? Bad news. You’re the backup plan.

Guilt is your constant companion

Say “no”? She gets upset. Can’t help her? You’re “selfish.” Go out of town for work? She “feels abandoned.” Women like this are emotional manipulators. Their favorite weapon? Guilt. The kinder and more empathetic you are, the more they’ll take.