Secrets of Happiness in Relationships: What German Scientists Say

Each of us dreams of long-term and harmonious relationships, but how often do we think about what we can contribute to this picture? A study conducted by scientists from Saarland University in Germany sheds light on the fact that the success of our relationships depends not on our partner but on ourselves. Let’s figure out which personality traits matter and how they can influence our happiness.

Each of us dreams of long-term and harmonious relationships, but how often do we think about what we can contribute to this picture? A study conducted by scientists from Saarland University in Germany sheds light on the fact that the success of our relationships depends not on our partner but on ourselves. Let’s figure out which personality traits matter and how they can influence our happiness.

So, German researchers highlight five key traits that determine satisfaction in long-term relationships: neuroticism, extraversion, openness to experience, agreeableness, and conscientiousness. Interestingly, both neuroticism and conscientiousness can help or hinder both women and men. This means that it's not just about possessing these qualities but also knowing how to use them correctly.

However, the most intriguing part of this research is that strong extraversion can be an obstacle to happiness in a couple, especially for women. Extraverted women, who crave communication and new experiences, can often find themselves too busy to devote adequate attention to their partner. Their desire for spontaneity and an active social life can lead them to miss out on the true joys of family happiness.

What does this mean for us men? First of all, when we think about choosing a partner, it's worth paying attention to calmer and more modest types of women. There’s no need to seek someone who has “a lot going on” socially. Sometimes, peace and simplicity prove to be far more attractive than a busy social life filled with parties.

Secondly, relationship problems often start with us. If you face difficulties, it's essential to first look at yourself and your habits. Without inner work and understanding your own needs, it’s pointless to seek someone to make you happy. Happiness isn’t just about what we get from our partner, but also about what we are willing to give them.

In conclusion, the secrets to happiness in relationships, as practice shows, lie in our ability to work on ourselves and choose partners who can complement us rather than overshadow us. Let’s learn to be happy together and make choices based on understanding, trust, and respect for ourselves and our loved ones.