7 Topics You Shouldn't Talk About with Your Girlfriend

Every relationship requires attention, patience, and the ability to find compromises. But no matter how hard we try, sometimes conversations can lead to misunderstandings and even arguments.

Every relationship requires attention, patience, and the ability to find compromises. But no matter how hard we try, sometimes conversations can lead to misunderstandings and even arguments. Especially if you bring up topics that are better left out of communication with your girlfriend. Below, we'll look at 7 topics that could turn an evening into an unpleasant moment.

Your rich sexual experience

Talking about how you "lived life to the fullest" before meeting her is not a conversation you should have, especially in the early stages of the relationship. She is likely not going to appreciate this. Instead of boasting about your intimate achievements, focus on the fact that your relationship with her is what matters most to you right now. If the conversation does go in this direction, remember: it’s better to stay diplomatic. Emphasize that your relationship with her is unique and there's no need to compare her to anyone else.

Politics and religion

Forget about heated debates on politics or religion, unless you want to see your girlfriend in the opposite corner. If your views differ significantly, there’s a high chance that a conversation on these topics will lead to an argument, not mutual understanding. This is especially true if the relationship is still new. It’s better to avoid such discussions to prevent deepening any disagreements. If your opinions on these matters are far apart, find a way to respect each other's position and avoid pressuring each other.

Ex-relationships

Curiosity is normal, but constant questions about exes, trying to gather details, and drawing comparisons with your current relationship can be dangerous. Your girlfriend will start to feel that you’re living in the past and not enjoying the present. These conversations can trigger jealousy, insecurity, or even resentment. It’s better to focus on the present, not what happened before you.

Personal finances

Money is always a sensitive topic, especially at the start of a relationship. No one likes having their financial habits discussed. If you start digging into her income or spending, she may feel like she is being valued only for her material side. Of course, money is an important aspect of shared life, but it's better to discuss it in a calm, respectful setting, not in an interrogation format.

Criticism of her family and friends

Even if you don’t like her friends or family, you don’t have the right to openly criticize them. For her, her loved ones are a part of her life, and any criticism of them will be perceived as a personal attack. Try to express your thoughts more constructively: “I find it difficult to communicate with your friend because we have different views,” instead of “Why do you hang out with this crowd?”

Health problems

Talking about your health problems is important, but it needs to be done the right way. For example, if you have a headache, explain that you need to rest but don’t go into long and detailed descriptions of your symptoms. Also, if she hasn’t brought up health issues, don’t force her to talk about them, especially if it concerns sensitive or chronic conditions. These conversations might cause discomfort for her.

Comparisons

Comparing your girlfriend to other women is probably the biggest mistake you can make in a relationship. Even if you want to give a compliment, such talk will inevitably lead to hurt feelings. Instead of saying, “My ex was always more...,” focus on what you like about your girlfriend. For example: “I love that you sometimes do the dishes!”