How to Grow an Adult in Yourself: A Guide for a Real Man

An adult isn’t just a number in your passport or a few gray hairs. It’s a state of mind, built on the foundation of your inner Child, who understands what it means to live authentically.

An adult isn’t just a number in your passport or a few gray hairs. It’s a state of mind, built on the foundation of your inner Child, who understands what it means to live authentically.

But how do you transform this Child into a mature individual? Let’s break it down.

The Child: Your Foundation

This Child never truly disappears, no matter how much others try to "educate" him. His self-interest isn’t a flaw but a crucial base. Why?

• He knows what he wants and isn’t ashamed of it.
• He can say "no" when something doesn’t align with his desires.
• He respects his own boundaries, understanding where his world ends and someone else’s begins.
• He needs to feel loved and valued—a fundamental need rooted in childhood.

If your inner Child is healthy, you’re already halfway there.

The Parent: Your Maturity

To become a true man, you need to combine the Child with the Parent. The Parent is the one who:

• Takes on responsibility without turning into a martyr.
• Respects the wishes and boundaries of others, without sacrificing himself.
• Knows how to negotiate and find compromises, rather than acting impulsively.

The Parent helps you balance being strong and caring without burning yourself out.

Three Superpowers of a Mature Man

For your inner Child and Parent to work as a team, you’ll need three key skills:

1. Intellectual independence. Don’t believe everything you hear. Learn to analyze information and draw your own conclusions. In a world full of fake news and manipulation, this is a true superpower.

2. Honest self-assessment. You’re not a superhero, but you’re not a failure either. Knowing your strengths and weaknesses means building your life on real foundations, not illusions.

3. Smart responsibility. Choose what you’re ready to take on and what you’re better off leaving behind. Taking on everything will only lead to burnout. A real adult knows when to say, "That’s enough."

Final Thoughts: Be Yourself

Maturity isn’t about being "perfect" or "right." It’s about being yourself, listening to your inner voice, and respecting yourself for who you are.

And remember: a real man isn’t afraid to be honest—with himself and with the world.

Are you ready? Then go ahead: build a life that’s truly yours.